I got engaged!
I actually got engaged a while ago, at the beginning of May. We were in Disneyland Paris with my mom and sister when my boyfriend asked me to marry him in the hotelroom after a fun-filled day.
Announcing our engagement to friends and family brings across two questions. “when are you getting married?” and “Are you going to make your own dress?”
The last one being more of an assumption then a question.
The answer is no. I’m not making my own wedding dress. And let me explain why.
“Why not? You are so skilled! You can do it!”
First of all, thank you for the compliment. Yes, I have gathered some skills over the last couple of years and am very proud of the level I’ve reached in sewing. Sewing a wedding dress is so much more then sewing a dress to wear to the office. There are very different skills and fabrics involved in sewing a wedding dress and I don’t feel so comfortable with that.
I hopefully will look back on an amazing wedding day. And the last thing I want to think about is that one seam that didn’t line up or a piece I’ve missed-cut and had to improvise otherwise. And that’s my next point why I won’t sew my own wedding dress.
It’s a lot of pressure.
Our wedding day is going to be our day. All eyes are going to be on us. There is a lot of planning and money involved in a wedding and I don’t want the addition of sewing a dress, that everybody will look at with a microscope-eye, on top of that. I want to make the weeks before the wedding as stress free as possible. And sewing a wedding dress is not stress-free. At all.
There are plenty of dresses I can buy.
I used to be a bit on the fence about wedding dresses. And that’s mainly because a lot of dresses that are presented in the media all feel the same to me. And it’s not a style I like. But thanks to the internet I came across a style of dress I do like and it seems that I have some choices in that. So when the time comes, I will look for that type of dress and try on some other styles as well and I’m sure there will be something in there for me.
I don’t have a clear idea yet.
Even though I know the type of dresses I like, I don’t know yet what I want exactly. And that’s something I usually do know when sewing something for myself. I know exactly what pattern goes with what fabric. For a wedding dress, I have no idea. I also want to keep my dress a surprise from my
boyfriend fiance which is impossible since I sew in our living-room and don’t feel like moving all my things to a different location.
It’s also an experience.
When I was in high-school I used to bike by a few bridal boutiques every week on my way home from theater class. Me and the friend I was biking with used to slow down and look in the shop windows to gasp over the dresses. Very cheesy, yes. But I can’t deny that little girl inside of me that experience!
A friend of mine that got married a few years ago also said shopping for her wedding dress was the most fun thing about planning her wedding. And now that I’ve found a style I like, I’m also really looking forward to it.
So no, I’m not sewing my own wedding dress and I feel really at peace with it. I do credit every past-bride and bride-to-be that did. Really proud of you for making such a memorable garment!
The thing I do might want to make is a reception dress. Just something fun and comfortable I can change into for the party and to have on stand-by if my wedding dress gets uncomfortable. I’ll definitely share the making of that when the time comes. I’m not planning on becoming a #1 bridalblogger but will share something when it feels appropriate for my blog.
Edit: Between writing the draft of this blog and actually posting it, I’ve bought a dress! I had a fantastic experience shopping for the dress and found a dress that has all the elements that I wanted in a dress and I’m really looking forward to wearing it on our big day!
Did you make your own wedding dress? Or would you be up to it? I’m very curious about your thoughts!